Wednesday, December 5, 2012

The Magic of Kink

Posted by: Seleste deLaney/Julie Particka

WARNING: This post discusses both sex and kink. 

Don't read it if that sort of thing bothers you. Thanks!

I'm one of the contributing authors to Evernight Publishing's A Vanilla-Free Christmas anthology. Not all the stories are BDSM, but they are all kink of one variety or another. A strange choice for the holidays, you say? Maybe. But maybe not. The holiday season is all about magic whether from a religious or secular perspective. And kink is kind of magical too.

No, it's not for everyone, and I'd even say it's not magical for everyone, but for some people it is. The man who can't attain or maintain an erection normally suddenly discovers that when his woman wears stilettos that show off her pedicure, he doesn't need his little blue pill. The woman who has never had an orgasm until the day she agrees to let her guy tie her up. The stories go on and on. For a lot of people, kink isn't something that's just a fun part of their bedroom play, it's a requirement.

For me, that's one of the more fascinating aspects of kink. That it can often cure what doctors and modern medicine can't. Now, I'm not saying if you or your loved one have a problem you should go buy some rope and dive into shibari. Most people who are into kink have known long before they necessarily try it out. Those are the people who see a cop with handcuffs and the sight causes a sexual reaction (minor or major). The cop and what he or she represents feeds into roleplay kinks as well as Domination/submission. The handcuffs matter in a number of kinks, most notably bondage.

The funny thing about magic... as they say in Once Upon a Time and any number of books: "Magic comes with a price." In this case, there's the simple fact that kinksters are looked down upon by non-kink society (ie--the public). I won't bring up the-books-that-shall-not-be-named, but even their popularity isn't taking hard-core kink mainstream. Also? Kink can't save your marriage. It can, possibly (if both parties are into it), save your sex life, which is kind of the same thing sometimes. But the point is, kink isn't a cure-all.

But it does cure some things, and those things can have a powerful impact on people's lives. So when you find out that CEO of the fortune 500 company likes to have a woman tie him up and walk all over him (literally) in her five-inch heels, cut the guy some slack. That might be the only way he can let go of being in charge all the time. And alternatively, that woman? She's a soccer mom with a lot of bills and a dog that won't stop peeing in the house. Dominating that CEO is how she centers and remembers that she has control over something.

And when you find your significant other trying on your lingerie, let him. Or better yet buy him some of his own. Because everyone needs to feel pretty sometimes. And understanding is its own special kind of magic.

Vanilla-Free Christmas

This Christmas, the best gifts are waiting for those who have been naughty...

And the toys under the tree are not for children. Sexy Santas, naughty elves, and dominant shifters are ready to spread some very kinky Christmas cheer. It's a good thing the ladies in our stories are looking for anything but vanilla.

Be Warned: menage sex, anal sex, sex toys, BDSM, spanking


  1. Great post, Seleste:) There's so much mainstream attention on BDSM right now...maybe it will make people more accepting of kink?

    1. One can hope. My fear is the exact opposite could happen because people dive right into it without thinking which could lead to serious injury and a bigger outcry of how dangerous it all is. *frantically waves hands in the air*

      LOL seriously though, I HOPE it opens people's minds.


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