The very first romance novel I ever read was Irish Thoroughbred by Nora Roberts when I
was in junior high. My mother was an avid reader of romance and handed the book
over, likely to get me out of her hair so she could read her own romance novel,
and from that first book, I was hooked. Never again was there a moment in my
life that I didn’t have my nose buried in a romance novel, usually a Harlequin.
Never again did I ever go to school, on a vacation or even to the doctor’s
office without a romance novel, or several, in hand. As I think about the
thousands of novels I’ve likely read to this point, I realize what an important
role they have played in my life.
One of
the best parts of a romance novel is the predictable happily-ever-after ending
that can be counted on when you open page one. I can’t underscore the
importance of this convention of the genre enough. There’s always a sense of
emotional safety when reading one of these novels, which allows you to emotionally
invest in the main characters, know them, love them, relate to them, all the
while knowing that no matter what problems they face, it will turn out all
right in the end. You can leave them behind knowing they’ve been taken care of
as you turn the first page of your next book. Real life has enough drama,
angst, uncertainty and pain, without having to add to it in my choice of
literature. Being able to read a great book that will leave me feeling happy
and fulfilled is simply delightful.
Romance has always had a healthy medicinal
quality. What genre is more soothing after a rough day at work? What genre is
more comforting? Romance is a sure way to help me let go of stress and reach for
peace and contentment. Reading about love, watching the interactions between a
rough and tumble cowboy and a feisty city girl, or a quirky 19th
century heroine trying to tame the wayward habits of a rogue, gives me a
vicarious thrill, a way of becoming part of another world I’ve always wanted to
live in that doesn’t allow me to enter with the problems of my real world. My
mind and body can find a calm place, which is more healthful all around. I call
it reading therapy.
Most significant in my life, the
romance genre has high standards when it comes to its heroes, their values, and
how they’re expected to treat women. This was a wonderful way for a young girl
to gain an education in what to require of a relationship with a man, and to
have it reinforced year after year, book after book, starting from a crucial
age. Respect. Tenderness. Friendship. Passion. Support. Courtship. Too often in
today’s society, women allow themselves to be treated without care, without
gentleness, as though they aren’t the most special person to their spouse or
partner. I’m thankful that I was so influenced by the novels I’d read because,
though it took some time to weed through the frogs, I was patient and refused
to settle for someone who wouldn’t treat me as we both deserved to be treated. I
met my prince, and we’ve been worshipping each other for fourteen years.
Thanks for stopping by today. Tell
me your thoughts! What does romance mean to you? Do you remember your first
book? Author? I’d love to hear from you.
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Terrific post! Thanks so much for sharing.
ReplyDeleteThanks! It's just such a unique genre. (-;
ReplyDeleteOoops! Someone who "would" treat me as ... Accidentally put wouldn't at the end, but I'm at work and can't fix it. (-;
ReplyDeleteThe happy ending is a promise that the author makes. Nor is romance the only genre that makes a promise to the reader. In mystery, not only must the mystery be solved but there must be justice. In fantasy, the forces of good pretty much always defeat the forces of evil.
ReplyDeleteIt's good to be able to count on those conventions unique to each genre. They're comforting, like wrapping yourself in a warm blanket.
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